How my family returned to the Eucharist and why I finally got a driver’s license after driving illegally for about 20 years.
I found this pizza-by-the-slice spot in Old Town…
They have your standard pepperoni and plain cheese slices, but they also make all these weird little one-off pizzas that seem like some folks just met in the back, gave a cursory glance at what was in the fridge, and then ran it by a guy named Dillon who partied a little too hard the night before. Once I saw one that had mac and cheese and hotdogs with chili dolloped across the top.
On one of our daddy-daughter Monday evenings, I took the girls there. We sat at the bar top by the big windows. Apparently, Haven wasn’t feeling well, so that’s why she didn’t eat much. Luckily, Mary had plenty to say otherwise. There weren’t too many lulls in the conversation to address.
They each picked out a bottled soda, and I carried over the plank sized slices on the thinnest paper plates ever made. I showed them the little glass shakers with Parmesan cheese and red pepper flakes. They told me about anything and everything that came to their minds while I sat on the stool between them making sure neither slipped off.
The pizza didn’t have to be good—it was about experiencing a little moment in time with these two girls. We just had this happy time together. I was with them with no agenda, contently listening to them, and pointing out the rain clouds making their way down the street to us.
Mary talked about how things were going with her classmate, Maya. Haven listed off ideas of what she wanted to do for her science project. I made a point to ask them for their ideas about something I was planning just so I could hear their thoughts. And we also made little comments here and there as we saw all the people and kids walking past us.
As we finished our slices, down came the rain.
The last time the three of us were caught in a downpour, we were unprepared. I parked down the street and around the corner from the restaurant because I thought we’d like to walk around after having a couple burgers together. That hope was abruptly dashed.
We had to book it across the main strip of College Ave and then cut through a couple alleys and side roads before we made it to the car. My first idea was to grab a couple little free newspapers that were under an awning. That idea seemed the most sensible when we first left and when the rain was just a drizzle.
[Quick note: The only reason we left when we did was because a man came inside, having an episode of violent pacing and extremely disorganized, nonsensical outbursts. If it weren’t for him and all the potential consequences and questions that could’ve followed, we would have just waited out the storm while splitting a milkshake.]
Once we started walking, the skies opened up over us, soaking through our newspapers, turning them into illegible globs in our greatest moment of need. Lightening crackled overhead and the thunder sent my girls into a panic. When we turned the last corner, in a full sprint, I thought I had parked just right at that corner. Sadly no, we had one more block to go. That’s when the screaming started.
I picked up one and threw her over my shoulder like a bag of rocks. I sent the other one ahead with the car keys so she could get in as soon as she made it. We ran like we were fleeing an air raid.
This time however, I parked just across the street and under a couple towering oak trees. I checked the weather before we left the house. The girls made sure to grab their little umbrellas as well as their rain boots. Leaving the restaurant, all we had to do was a little hop over the train tracks, a cute little drizzly walk across the street, and then right into the car. The ride home this time around involved fewer screams of desperation and terror.
The pizza didn’t have to be good—I just wanted to have a moment where I could “keep them all to myself” and nothing else mattered except whatever they had to tell me.
“I don’t really care; I just want a general appearance of things being sorted out.”
At my worst, I flirt with the notion that I somehow can be the only person in the world to achieve a moment of perfection. Real perfection—not just a good feeling or a kind of ecstatic satisfaction. I like to think that I can bring together all of my life’s goals, strengths, relationships, resources, and whatever collection of entrails and organs I can find to a kind of sacrificial table whereby I can give all of it to the good work of experiencing a kind of perfection. I’ll sacrifice all of it so I get exactly what I want.
I’ll sacrifice everything (except myself) so I and whoever would appreciate the same can live inside what I deem as perfect.
Some might use the phrase “On earth as it is in Heaven” with a sincere devotion toward a sacrificial life. For me however, I would make an amendment to the hopeful intercession, to include, “by the work and unmatched creative expressions of John Mark Guerra, the man we could never thank enough.”
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